28
Nov 09

You are You

Who am I?

We ask ourselves this question every day. Even if we do not articulate these words in our own minds, our decisions and our actions inevitably bring us back to this question: Who am I?

Am I becoming more myself? Were the hopes and dreams I had as a child the real me? When this dreary work, this mind-numbing business which I find myself in today is completed and put away, will that person who I will be at that point be the real me?

This question can drive us, consume us, especially in our youth, when defining who we are seems most vitally important while it is at its most impossible.

The answer is that you are who you are. You are the thing asking the question and the consciousness trying to answer it. You are the body and mind, the feeling and logic, the sense and thoughts, the questioner and the seeker. You are who you are, and you were a different person yesterday then you are today, and will be a different person again tomorrow.

It is difficult, but we must let go of the notion that who we are  is some stable thing which we can rely on. The question we may really be asking is not, “who am I?”, but rather “who will I be?”, which is a very relevant and critical question that is much harder to answer then who you are right now. After all, it is the person whom you will be who will receive the effects of your decisions today. Predicting what will make that person happy is a continual challenge, and it is only through self-listening, and striving for balance in all our actions, that we can begin to know that future person.

We must find what we can do today which not only can lead to balance in our lives now but may also help that future person achieve balance as well.


23
Nov 09

First Principles

To live is to experience suffering. The reality of suffering and the unavoidable nature of suffering for all living creatures is one of the noble truths of the Buddha. Kings and servants, presidents and prisoners all feel suffering.

We all have experienced, or will experience, the pain of anxiety about money, or love, or loneliness. We all have experienced, or will experience, the pain of hunger and thirst, or physical trials. We all have experienced, or will experience, the grieving of losing someone we love to death or abandonment. Suffering is an inevitable part of life.

Yet, in most people’s lives, there is also joy. Joy at spending time with one’s family, or succeeding at one’s work. Joy at raising children, or falling in love. Joy at walking on a crisp fall day, and observing the beauty of falling autumn leaves and a cold, clear sky.

Joy is an experience that can and often does happen in people’s lives. Suffering cannot be avoided completely, and striving to avoid suffering entirely leads to a certain sickness, a reluctance to engage with life and risk our emotional comfort for something greater. Similarly, the mistaken pursuit of joy alone leads to hedonism, and is foolhardy. Human nature is such that even in times of the greatest pleasure, we all will find the edge of some discontent and suffer from it.

What is needed is to seek balance between joy and suffering. To remain engaged in life, and to embrace both experiences as being in equal measure parts of the whole of living. This does not mean that we do not occasionally turn away and try to forget ourselves in retreats and distractions. But it does mean that we know our distractions as distractions, and when we are ready, we fully engage in the struggle to find balance.

The purpose of these writings will be to help you find that balance in your own life between joy and suffering, to attempt to illuminate the balanced way so that you can follow it towards happiness and fulfillment in your daily life.

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